02 Nov 2014, 8:48 pm
#710
(02 Nov 2014, 8:08 pm)AdamY Follow your heart.
You say you were dumped by your ex which implies that the decision to end the relationship was hers.
I appreciate that you may have agreed to remain friends, but, as a friend, she should have no objection to you going out with someone you really like.
If she has a problem with you going out with a friend of hers - the problem lies with her not you.
I know you want to keep everyone happy but life isn't that simple. If you think that her friend is something special, and her feelings are reciprocated, then go for it!
Long distance relationships however...
Sound advice that. Thank you.
My head says one thing, my heart another.
I'm really not sure if the friend feels the same way or not.
It is very hard to keep everyone happy. I don't want to make my friendship with them awkward, and I don't want their friendship to be awkward either.
And it does seem a bit pointless if we've only got a month and a bit left.
Doing A-Level Ethics has made this a hell of a lot harder. I've got all the different theories running through my mind; Utilitarianism, Kantian Ethics, Virtue Ethics.
(02 Nov 2014, 8:11 pm)Marcus I agree with what you are saying AdamY, but I've never been in the situation myself (probably never will). 
Adam, do what you want, and don't let people change your decision.
Also good advice. Thank you. That's one problem with me. I hate being selfish, so I do always consider other people's opinions and how they would feel. It's quite annoying at times.
(02 Nov 2014, 8:21 pm)Andreos1 Ask Dr Nick!
There is a thread in here somewhere. Uncle AdamY solved the initial love triangle there too.
Laying my cards on the table - I have 'lived' a bit. Older women, younger women, same age women, bitter women, scorned women, two faced women, secure women, insecure women, in different countries women.
One thing I learned, no matter what you do, what you say - you can't win.
Whatever you do, it will be wrong in someone's eyes.
Just go with your gut instinct and don't let your head rule your heart or vice versa.
One positive, is that you are young and have plenty of time, whatever the outcome here.
Don't let it chew you up. What will be, will be.
As my Dad always reminded me: "don't go plodging without your wellies".
Three kids later - I may start listening to his advice.
Also cracking advice. Thank you.
Ah, I should have probably tried to find the Uncle AdamY thread. Completely forgot about it.
In regards to someone seeing either outcome as wrong, that's one of the sub-problems I have. I absolutely hate seeing friends hurt, so if I hurt someone then I'll feel guilty as owt.
I love these deep quotes and mottos people have (blame A-Level philosophy). That's certainly a one to remember.
I'll have to think about it long and hard over the next few days. I might be seeing them tomorrow night for a game of bowling or on Wednesday for bonfire night, or even both, so I best get my skates on.
But seriously lads, thanks a lot. I do appreciate it.
