(21 May 2014, 9:03 pm)marxistafozzski wrote [ -> ]The only advice I give kids now, Don't fuck it up, dont be like me...
Hopefully things will change for you once you leave school, getting yourself on a good college course, I started to come out my shell when I went to College, doing a course I never thought I would do, Performing Art, best thing I ever did at that point in my life when I was 17...
Anxiety and Depression is hard to beat, it is a cancer of the mind, it may stay with you for life, that is only if you let it, if it is taken hold now, then you need to find some help mate, otherwise you will be the wrong side of 30 if you let it take hold, take it from me...
I have been there and I am living with the consequences of being fucked up as a kid...
The same message goes to anybody else who suffers depression, anxiety or nervousness, do something and act sooner rather than later
Not many people know about it - in fact near to none.
I can't bring myself to tell family members about it or teachers (even though I really should) and I'll try and beat it. But if not, I'm sure I'll get help later on in life, as I can't let it hold me back.
It must have been horrible for you as a kid, and a lot worse than me. I'm sure you'll find yourself a good job somewhere or another - never give up mate, as success is waiting for you around the corner, and just believe in yourself. Suffering with anxiety myself I know it's hard, but try!
I pretty much half-arsed my way through school.
Life in a Catholic school when you and your parents are atheists can be interesting, especially when you renounce god and proclaim that you've become a devil-worshipper in a sardonic attempt to challenge the orthodox establishment. As a result, I didn't have to go to masses which were frequent and boring.
Socially, I was somewhere in the middle. I hung-out with the cool-kids and was on the fringe of their social circles although I was never fully integrated largely because I've always been something of an outsider - mostly through choice as I didn't find hanging around the Metrocentre for six hours a day particularly interesting. If I was bored, I simply went off and did my own thing.
I can't say I was really bullied. If people screwed with me I would always seek some sort of retribution. I was good at getting people into trouble
(21 May 2014, 9:09 pm)Tom wrote [ -> ]Not many people know about it - in fact near to none.
I can't bring myself to tell family members about it or teachers (even though I really should) and I'll try and beat it. But if not, I'm sure I'll get help later on in life, as I can't let it hold me back.
It must have been horrible for you as a kid, and a lot worse than me. I'm sure you'll find yourself a good job somewhere or another - never give up mate, as success is waiting for you around the corner, and just believe in yourself. Suffering with anxiety myself I know it's hard, but try!
I wont clog this thread up with Mr Fozz's life story, but yes, it was awful, and in some ways, I am very lucky to be alive to tell the story...The bullying pretty much stopped one day when this kid spat in my face, I picked up half a brick and went after him, he was very lucky, because if I caught him, he would be severely disabled or dead by now as I did intend cave his face in...
Look, I will leave it at that, if you ever feel like talking about anything, PM me, it can easier talking to a stranger sometimes...thats the way I do things to protect my family...Offer is there mate if you feel like it 😀
(21 May 2014, 9:19 pm)AdamY wrote [ -> ]I pretty much half-arsed my way through school.
Life in a Catholic school when you and your parents are atheists can be interesting, especially when you renounce god and proclaim that you've become a devil-worshipper in a sardonic attempt to challenge the orthodox establishment. As a result, I didn't have to go to masses which were frequent and boring.
Socially, I was somewhere in the middle. I hung-out with the cool-kids and was on the fringe of their social circles although I was never fully integrated largely because I've always been something of an outsider - mostly through choice as I didn't find hanging around the Metrocentre for six hours a day particularly interesting. If I was bored, I simply went off and did my own thing.
I can't say I was really bullied. If people screwed with me I would always seek some sort of retribution. I was good at getting people into trouble
You sly so and so ;-) my sister has been good at that, especially when she wants me to get wrong, still quite manipulative and sly to this day, lol
(22 May 2014, 10:50 am)marxistafozzski wrote [ -> ]I wont clog this thread up with Mr Fozz's life story, but yes, it was awful, and in some ways, I am very lucky to be alive to tell the story...The bullying pretty much stopped one day when this kid spat in my face, I picked up half a brick and went after him, he was very lucky, because if I caught him, he would be severely disabled or dead by now as I did intend cave his face in...
Look, I will leave it at that, if you ever feel like talking about anything, PM me, it can easier talking to a stranger sometimes...thats the way I do things to protect my family...Offer is there mate if you feel like it ?
You sly so and so ;-) my sister has been good at that, especially when she wants me to get wrong, still quite manipulative and sly to this day, lol
I wouldn't describe myself as 'intentionally scary', but I do have the ability to frighten people off using words, especially the stuck-up ones. At my parents evening this year, I have 13 teachers, and 7 told my parents I was way too self-opinionated to the point that I don't give others a chance. To be honest I thought that was harsh of them (most of them knew I don't like them, and most teachers like to point out flaws then successes anyway), because I think being opinionated shows confidence, why should someone else change YOUR opinion, do you know what I mean?
Also Mr Fozz, the whole reason I created thread is to share your problems while growing up (life story), so fire away if there's anything else you want to discuss
After reading this thread, there has been some interesting points and experiences brought up and it has had me thinking about an idea I have had for a while...
Would anybody here be interested in becoming involved(either a regular user or admin) with a new message board that deals with Bullying, Abuse, Depression and Mental Health Issues, a place to come and chat without fear of discrimination, I personally think if done right and handled right there is no reason for it not to work...
If anyone is interested then let me know and I would be happy to work on something
(22 May 2014, 2:18 pm)marxistafozzski wrote [ -> ]After reading this thread, there has been some interesting points and experiences brought up and it has had me thinking about an idea I have had for a while...
Would anybody here be interested in becoming involved(either a regular user or admin) with a new message board that deals with Bullying, Abuse, Depression and Mental Health Issues, a place to come and chat without fear of discrimination, I personally think if done right and handled right there is no reason for it not to work...
If anyone is interested then let me know and I would be happy to work on something
If it's on this forum, then I'd be happy to. At least we would be able to try and help some people with serious problems as a result of bullying or other related problems and give them condolence. There aren't many people who do anymore....
(22 May 2014, 2:18 pm)marxistafozzski wrote [ -> ]After reading this thread, there has been some interesting points and experiences brought up and it has had me thinking about an idea I have had for a while...
Would anybody here be interested in becoming involved(either a regular user or admin) with a new message board that deals with Bullying, Abuse, Depression and Mental Health Issues, a place to come and chat without fear of discrimination, I personally think if done right and handled right there is no reason for it not to work...
If anyone is interested then let me know and I would be happy to work on something
Whilst having been through bouts of depression and ptsd AND having experience of support/guidance type work - no-one that I am aware of on here (could be wrong) is a specialist or expert in the subject.
If providing a shoulder to cry on, (for those willing to open up on things) is all you are wanting - then I am sure many will consider it.
The flip side (and possible problem), is the offering of advice - when we aren't qualified or experienced enough to provide it.
What you or I may think is good, solid and reliable advice, could end up causing issues into the future for the person who has opened up.
Hopefully I am not speaking out of turn here, but judging his comments, GTomlinson was obviously affected by events on the Tyne Bridge last month.
Seeing the photo on the forum - could work one of two ways. I certainly wouldn't want to see a visual image of the incident I was witness to (I have enough of those with flashbacks), but do read newspaper articles of the event online.
If I was to turn round and try and advise GTomlinson on what to do, who knows what could happen - particularly as I don't know him, his background or what makes him tick.
That is the danger.
(22 May 2014, 10:50 am)marxistafozzski wrote [ -> ]You sly so and so ;-) my sister has been good at that, especially when she wants me to get wrong, still quite manipulative and sly to this day, lol
It didn't always work in my favour though.
I never felt the need to grass people up, but I was persuasive enough to convince silly people to do silly things. However, when those silly things went wrong, it didn't stop the same silly people from informing the teacher that I told them to do it. I used to try and defend myself by using the old 'Tyne Bridge' and 'Free Will' arguments - it never worked.
(22 May 2014, 2:57 pm)Andreos Constantopolous wrote [ -> ]Whilst having been through bouts of depression and ptsd AND having experience of support/guidance type work - no-one that I am aware of on here (could be wrong) is a specialist or expert in the subject.
If providing a shoulder to cry on, (for those willing to open up on things) is all you are wanting - then I am sure many will consider it.
The flip side (and possible problem), is the offering of advice - when we aren't qualified or experienced enough to provide it.
What you or I may think is good, solid and reliable advice, could end up causing issues into the future for the person who has opened up.
Hopefully I am not speaking out of turn here, but judging his comments, GTomlinson was obviously affected by events on the Tyne Bridge last month.
Seeing the photo on the forum - could work one of two ways. I certainly wouldn't want to see a visual image of the incident I was witness to (I have enough of those with flashbacks), but do read newspaper articles of the event online.
If I was to turn round and try and advise GTomlinson on what to do, who knows what could happen - particularly as I don't know him, his background or what makes him tick.
That is the danger.
I agree totally. As long as it doesn't give people 'advice' on what to do with their unsolved issues and just offers sympathy and condolence I'm alright with it. I have no problem in giving people a shoulder to cry on either, just as long as people don't treat it like a 'serious helpline' and it just says a place to chat to.
(22 May 2014, 2:57 pm)Andreos Constantopolous wrote [ -> ]Whilst having been through bouts of depression and ptsd AND having experience of support/guidance type work - no-one that I am aware of on here (could be wrong) is a specialist or expert in the subject.
If providing a shoulder to cry on, (for those willing to open up on things) is all you are wanting - then I am sure many will consider it.
The flip side (and possible problem), is the offering of advice - when we aren't qualified or experienced enough to provide it.
What you or I may think is good, solid and reliable advice, could end up causing issues into the future for the person who has opened up.
Hopefully I am not speaking out of turn here, but judging his comments, GTomlinson was obviously affected by events on the Tyne Bridge last month.
Seeing the photo on the forum - could work one of two ways. I certainly wouldn't want to see a visual image of the incident I was witness to (I have enough of those with flashbacks), but do read newspaper articles of the event online.
If I was to turn round and try and advise GTomlinson on what to do, who knows what could happen - particularly as I don't know him, his background or what makes him tick.
That is the danger.
I have qualifications in Youth Work and Advice and Guidance, while I believe in a good place to be able to advice, I agree with what you say, my advice could be very different to yours and may not be taken very well...
The idea was not really to provide a shoulder to cry on, but somewhere people can come to meet like minded people and to discuss the various mental health problems, depression, bullying, with advice mostly being limited by pointing them in the right direction, i.e. Mind, Samaritans, Centrepoint etc...
Anyway, I may scrap the idea and look to form a football forum in the future, just see how things pan out over time
(27 May 2014, 2:40 pm)marxistafozzski wrote [ -> ]I have qualifications in Youth Work and Advice and Guidance, while I believe in a good place to be able to advice, I agree with what you say, my advice could be very different to yours and may not be taken very well...
The idea was not really to provide a shoulder to cry on, but somewhere people can come to meet like minded people and to discuss the various mental health problems, depression, bullying, with advice mostly being limited by pointing them in the right direction, i.e. Mind, Samaritans, Centrepoint etc...
Anyway, I may scrap the idea and look to form a football forum in the future, just see how things pan out over time
I think it is a good idea. My post wasn't meant to take anything away from your suggestion. Just wanted to outline the concerns and potential implications.
I have IAG quals too, but I certainly wouldn't be comfortable giving someone advice on mental health etc. It isn't my background, even though I have personal experience in it.
Have a look at getting some specialist counselling quals and put your idea into practice - meaning your back is covered and you are trained to offer reliable advice at the same time.
I know I'm digging up quite an old thread, but the Head of MFL at my school is observing me in French to see if I should be moved down a set next year
. My test results are unbelievably bad.....
Also, my Humanities teacher set a big HW for before the holidays - and as I was ill for a fortnight I couldn't do it. I spoke to him yesterday and he said I still had two days prior to that to do it. For god's sake; I don't have second sight! I can't see the future.....
As he looked away I pulled a face at him similar to this;
https://www.google.co.uk/search?q=stupid+donkey+face&client=safari&hl=en&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ei=2AySU7qKPNCK4gTS6oCoBw&ved=0CAcQ_AUoAQ#facrc=_&imgrc=iE0lX_6QAUBTwM%253A%3BNrzGFbKVxY6GsM%3Bhttp%253A%252F%252F1.bp.blogspot.com%252F-xyiF1pSmWPY%252FTXBOhNKKSHI%252FAAAAAAAAAm8%252FMnlB4AVBjgI%252Fs1600%252Fdonkey%25252Btongue.jpg%3Bhttp%253A%252F%252Fshanimalscrackers.blogspot.com%252F2011_03_01_archive.html%3B537%3B344
Go back tomorrow at 10:55.
(01 Sep 2014, 6:51 am)danpick wrote [ -> ]Go back tomorrow at 10:55.
Likewise, at 0850.
Will end up being one of the first people in closer to 0800 though, 'cause I'm daft like that.
Wednesday for me
Totally disagree with these School bus changes. We were told by the school not to make a massive amount of noise so we dont distract the driver (that rule obviously influenced by the crash which they went on about non stop for at least 2 weeks) so what do they do? Take off a school bus and put some of them on mine which means more kids and, logically, more noise. That then means the driver has more chance of been distracted. Disagreed with them ever since i saw the changes for the first time
I go back at 0840 tomorrow
Thankfully it's a early finish though.
(01 Sep 2014, 6:56 am)Dan wrote [ -> ]Likewise, at 0850.
Will end up being one of the first people in closer to 0800 though, 'cause I'm daft like that.
Would have normally got in then as well, but the bus timetable changed over the course of the holidays,so I'll likely get in about 8.30 now
not enough time to do forgotten homework
Another 2 weeks for me, or 3 if you exclude Freshers
Not looking forward to it, with Roseberry closing down I've got an unconfirmed number of new kids in my year group (est.100). ARGHH!!!
(01 Sep 2014, 9:29 am)mb134 wrote [ -> ]Would have normally got in then as well, but the bus timetable changed over the course of the holidays,so I'll likely get in about 8.30 now not enough time to do forgotten homework
No good! That's why I usually get in on the hour too.
I shall be making ample use of my free periods on Monday (1355-1455), Tuesday (1035-1135, 1500-1600), Thursday (all day until 1500) and Friday (0915-1015) instead.
W'hey, getting in at half 10 instead tomorrow - then I think we can piss off home or to town or whatever after two hours. Good crack!
(01 Sep 2014, 5:34 pm)Dan wrote [ -> ]No good! That's why I usually get in on the hour too.
I shall be making ample use of my free periods on Monday (1355-1455), Tuesday (1035-1135, 1500-1600), Thursday (all day until 1500) and Friday (0915-1015) instead.
W'hey, getting in at half 10 instead tomorrow - then I think we can piss off home or to town or whatever after two hours. Good crack!
Out of interest Dan, do you get free periods in Y10/Y11?
(01 Sep 2014, 5:35 pm)Tom wrote [ -> ]Out of interest Dan, do you get free periods in Y10/Y11?
For my school, we don't. We take 4 subjects in Year 12, and 5 frees, and drop one for Year 13, and get 10 frees.
(01 Sep 2014, 5:35 pm)Tom wrote [ -> ]Out of interest Dan, do you get free periods in Y10/Y11?
Again, as with most things, will vary depending on school.
I certainly didn't get any allocated free periods in Years 10/11, but I ended up ditching Games (P.E) in favour of doing the Dual Award for Media Studies - most of my time was spent pissing about if there were others present, and updating NEB's fleet lists if there wasn't!
We got P.S.H.E which was basically a free towards the end.
For me, in Year 12, you get 16 hours teaching time + 1hr P.E + 1hr Enrichment, meaning you usually get 7hrs worth of free periods. My English lessons clash with P.E, so I get an extra free period compared to everyone else.
In Year 13, you get 12 hours teaching time, 1hr Enrichment and no P.E - meaning that you get 12hrs worth of free periods. My school's 'traditional times' (ie 9am-4pm) assist in the extra hours of free periods though.
(01 Sep 2014, 5:38 pm)Dan wrote [ -> ]Again, as with most things, will vary depending on school.
I certainly didn't get any allocated free periods in Years 10/11, but I ended up ditching Games (P.E) in favour of doing the Dual Award for Media Studies - most of my time was spent pissing about if there were others present, and updating NEB's fleet lists if there wasn't!
We got P.S.H.E which was basically a free towards the end.
For me, in Year 12, you get 16 hours teaching time + 1hr P.E + 1hr Enrichment, meaning you usually get 7hrs worth of free periods. My English lessons clash with P.E, so I get an extra free period compared to everyone else.
In Year 13, you get 12 hours teaching time, 1hr Enrichment and no P.E - meaning that you get 12hrs worth of free periods. My school's 'traditional times' (ie 9am-4pm) assist in the extra hours of free periods though.
Cheers
Ah you have to take PE in Y12 too
(01 Sep 2014, 5:40 pm)Tom wrote [ -> ]Cheers
Ah you have to take PE in Y12 too
I intend to take General Business at Uni, so it looks like I'll be doing this for the remainder of school;
Year 10 & 11 - I have to take 5 GCSEs, and I'll need Business if I'm doing a Business degree (it also depends what you take for A-Level, if you do it in GCSE you might be able to do it, or something like that), so I'll take that, I like History and Geography so I'll do that, I have to take one language which would be German, and probably English Literature.
For Year 12 - I'll probably do Business, History, Sociology & Psychology, and possibly continue English Literature, then drop the last one for Year 13.
Just a rough plan.
(01 Sep 2014, 5:46 pm)Marcus wrote [ -> ]I intend to take General Business at Uni, so it looks like I'll be doing this for the remainder of school;
Year 10 & 11 - I have to take 5 GCSEs, and I'll need Business if I'm doing a Business degree (it also depends what you take for A-Level, if you do it in GCSE you might be able to do it, or something like that), so I'll take that, I like History and Geography so I'll do that, I have to take one language which would be German, and probably English Literature.
For Year 12 - I'll probably do Business, History, Sociology & Psychology, and possibly continue English Literature, then drop the last one for Year 13.
Just a rough plan.
I'm taking - Travel and Tourism, Geography, Business, German and then the core subjects.
(01 Sep 2014, 5:40 pm)Tom wrote [ -> ]Cheers
Ah you have to take PE in Y12 too
Officially that's the case in my school, but clearly it didn't work out that way for anyone who took A Level English!
Apparently very few actually turn up to Y12 P.E lessons in my school, so it ends up where those that do attend end up playing on Wii Fit or whatever.
(01 Sep 2014, 5:49 pm)Dan wrote [ -> ]Officially that's the case in my school, but clearly it didn't work out that way for anyone who took A Level English!
Apparently very few actually turn up to Y12 P.E lessons in my school, so it ends up where those that do attend end up playing on Wii Fit or whatever.
I hate Games - and usually I don't participate so I get send off the field or whatever to sit in the changing rooms.
(01 Sep 2014, 5:51 pm)Tom wrote [ -> ]I hate Games - and usually I don't participate so I get send off the field or whatever to sit in the changing rooms.
Me and Rhys just normally mess around and do the banzai technique in Rugby
(01 Sep 2014, 5:53 pm)Marcus wrote [ -> ]Me and Rhys just normally mess around and do the banzai technique in Rugby
I don't even go that far!
In rugby if I get the ball I just throw it off the pitch, then the teacher sends me away. This year we are in sets for Games so hopefully I'll be with people who are a similar level of ability to me (in other words, standing there doing nowt)