(23 Aug 2014, 10:46 pm)Robert wrote Not meaning anything nasty by this but i doubt my Great Grandmother will see another Christmas which is a shame. Her Dementia and other problems are becoming too much for her but to be honest, she is nearly 90 and im sure she has had plenty of opportunities to get the best out of life that she possibly can. And im sure i mean a lot to her as i was the first baby she had held (that wasnt her own) but i started avoiding her whenever we took our dog over for 'doggysitting' as we used to call bit because of the way she kept hugging me but now i am at the age where i can understand why she did this and just shows how much i mean to her. Now she is so bad if i was to walk in she would just sit there, look at me and think 'who is he' which is quite bad knowing that ill have missed so many opportunities to see her because i was too much of an idiot to realise why she did what she did. Think it would be better in this case to do what Marcus did, get her cremated and scattered at Mountsett Crematorium where her husband (who died literally a couple of months before i was born) is currently. Just be nice to think that they can be together once more.
With my dog, we have decided that scattering ashes isnt the best option as in reality, she didnt have a favourite place. As long as she got to go for a ride in the car out of the house she couldnt care less where we went. We have just dedicated a small table in our living room with a picture of her on the wall, a set of flowers (plastic for cost effective reasons) with her ashes. We have even made a small booklet from the time we got her back in 2001 until her death at approx 8:40am on 12th August 2014. In a way, im glad there is a Wedding on Monday coming up as it would have been her birthday but with this Wedding it gives me something else to focus on rather than what we could have been doing instead.
I was starting to get emotional by just typing all this (particularly the last paragraph as the first one hasnt happened yet but undoubtedly will. And to be frank, soon at that) and its also taking its tole on the Cats, especially the one that has known her for the full 13 years with us and always had her back when it came to him been involved in a scrap with other cats. Would have been nice for her to see her birthday but we just felt that it would be stupid to watch her suffer for the sake of a day. A sad end to a beloved family pet in my opinion.
Sorry if this post has made anybody breakdown but i just thought it would be good to let people know that other people on the forum and all around them are going through exactly the same, animal or human. Again, no disrespect intended.
My great grandmother won't see another Christmas, partly due to the NHS being shambles. She complained of several problems to her GP, and they put it down to old age. Then a couple of weeks ago she was diagnosed with stage 4 kidney cancer which has spread to the lungs!
My dog is still going strong though! It's for you lovely to have a little memorial table to remember her by.