(02 Nov 2014, 8:48 pm)Adam Sound advice that. Thank you.
My head says one thing, my heart another.
I'm really not sure if the friend feels the same way or not.
It is very hard to keep everyone happy. I don't want to make my friendship with them awkward, and I don't want their friendship to be awkward either.
And it does seem a bit pointless if we've only got a month and a bit left.
Doing A-Level Ethics has made this a hell of a lot harder. I've got all the different theories running through my mind; Utilitarianism, Kantian Ethics, Virtue Ethics.
(02 Nov 2014, 8:48 pm)Adam Sound advice that. Thank you.
My head says one thing, my heart another.
I'm really not sure if the friend feels the same way or not.
It is very hard to keep everyone happy. I don't want to make my friendship with them awkward, and I don't want their friendship to be awkward either.
And it does seem a bit pointless if we've only got a month and a bit left.
Doing A-Level Ethics has made this a hell of a lot harder. I've got all the different theories running through my mind; Utilitarianism, Kantian Ethics, Virtue Ethics.
(03 Nov 2014, 5:39 pm)AdamY I live with a lot of regret in my life. Some of that regret stems from the fact that, like you, I tend to over analyse situations. For me, it gets to the point where I somehow manage to convince myself that something I think is a good idea will lead to something bad (or that the effort is not worth it). When analysing these situations further, you sometimes end up regretting not acting upon initial impulse.
To relate this to your situation, around 15 years ago, there was this girl who I mad about. We were friends but I also had reason to believe that she also liked me. My analysis, combined with a lack of self-confidence, convinced me not to pursue things further and our friendship remained platonic. I don't know how the relationship would have panned-out if we had gotten together - it may have been a complete disaster - or even if she'd considered going with me but, one thing I do know, is that I still think of her regularly and wonder 'what if'.
A month and a half may not seem like a lot of time for a relationship to develop but it could also prove to be one of the better experiences of your life.
The only question you have to ask yourself is can you live with not knowing how it all could have panned-out?
(03 Nov 2014, 5:39 pm)AdamY I live with a lot of regret in my life. Some of that regret stems from the fact that, like you, I tend to over analyse situations. For me, it gets to the point where I somehow manage to convince myself that something I think is a good idea will lead to something bad (or that the effort is not worth it). When analysing these situations further, you sometimes end up regretting not acting upon initial impulse.
To relate this to your situation, around 15 years ago, there was this girl who I mad about. We were friends but I also had reason to believe that she also liked me. My analysis, combined with a lack of self-confidence, convinced me not to pursue things further and our friendship remained platonic. I don't know how the relationship would have panned-out if we had gotten together - it may have been a complete disaster - or even if she'd considered going with me but, one thing I do know, is that I still think of her regularly and wonder 'what if'.
A month and a half may not seem like a lot of time for a relationship to develop but it could also prove to be one of the better experiences of your life.
The only question you have to ask yourself is can you live with not knowing how it all could have panned-out?
(03 Nov 2014, 5:39 pm)AdamY I live with a lot of regret in my life. Some of that regret stems from the fact that, like you, I tend to over analyse situations. For me, it gets to the point where I somehow manage to convince myself that something I think is a good idea will lead to something bad (or that the effort is not worth it). When analysing these situations further, you sometimes end up regretting not acting upon initial impulse.
To relate this to your situation, around 15 years ago, there was this girl who I mad about. We were friends but I also had reason to believe that she also liked me. My analysis, combined with a lack of self-confidence, convinced me not to pursue things further and our friendship remained platonic. I don't know how the relationship would have panned-out if we had gotten together - it may have been a complete disaster - or even if she'd considered going with me but, one thing I do know, is that I still think of her regularly and wonder 'what if'.
A month and a half may not seem like a lot of time for a relationship to develop but it could also prove to be one of the better experiences of your life.
The only question you have to ask yourself is can you live with not knowing how it all could have panned-out?
(03 Nov 2014, 7:32 pm)Adam One of my favourite quotes is this: "Always tell someone how you feel, because opportunities are lost in the blink of an eye, but regret can last a lifetime".
Like I said yesterday, it's a lot to think about and I still haven't really made any progress. There are some things in life when you have to adopt a "grin and bare it" attitude.
Turns out I'm out with them tonight so you never know what might happen. Once I've had a few drinks anything can happen.
As my former Ethics teacher said, "it's always good to have a drink, because alcohol loosens the brain, and the looser the brain is the freer you think".
(03 Nov 2014, 5:39 pm)AdamY I live with a lot of regret in my life. Some of that regret stems from the fact that, like you, I tend to over analyse situations. For me, it gets to the point where I somehow manage to convince myself that something I think is a good idea will lead to something bad (or that the effort is not worth it). When analysing these situations further, you sometimes end up regretting not acting upon initial impulse.
To relate this to your situation, around 15 years ago, there was this girl who I mad about. We were friends but I also had reason to believe that she also liked me. My analysis, combined with a lack of self-confidence, convinced me not to pursue things further and our friendship remained platonic. I don't know how the relationship would have panned-out if we had gotten together - it may have been a complete disaster - or even if she'd considered going with me but, one thing I do know, is that I still think of her regularly and wonder 'what if'.
A month and a half may not seem like a lot of time for a relationship to develop but it could also prove to be one of the better experiences of your life.
The only question you have to ask yourself is can you live with not knowing how it all could have panned-out?
(03 Nov 2014, 7:32 pm)Adam One of my favourite quotes is this: "Always tell someone how you feel, because opportunities are lost in the blink of an eye, but regret can last a lifetime".
Like I said yesterday, it's a lot to think about and I still haven't really made any progress. There are some things in life when you have to adopt a "grin and bare it" attitude.
Turns out I'm out with them tonight so you never know what might happen. Once I've had a few drinks anything can happen.
As my former Ethics teacher said, "it's always good to have a drink, because alcohol loosens the brain, and the looser the brain is the freer you think".
(03 Nov 2014, 8:10 pm)Andreos1 @Fozz.Do you know said DJ mate, I say DJ, I dont think hemis on radio now, he went to TFM and was laid off last year, he is a nice bloke really, He cant hold drink well(his nickname was always Shandyboy), I have a pic of us spewing up, we did drink a full off licence worth of alcohol, that bad it actually took 4 weeks to fully recover, lol
Sounds like something a DJ who appeared on Come Dine with Me and flies a helicopter may do...
(03 Nov 2014, 8:10 pm)Andreos1 @Fozz.Do you know said DJ mate, I say DJ, I dont think hemis on radio now, he went to TFM and was laid off last year, he is a nice bloke really, He cant hold drink well(his nickname was always Shandyboy), I have a pic of us spewing up, we did drink a full off licence worth of alcohol, that bad it actually took 4 weeks to fully recover, lol
Sounds like something a DJ who appeared on Come Dine with Me and flies a helicopter may do...
i had just completed an absolute heck load of flickr uploads then i get woken up when i am literely knackered if it was during the day but far enough i uploaded around 137 photos and now i feel absolutely knacked why me at this time of night
(03 Nov 2014, 8:10 pm)Andreos1 @Fozz.
Sounds like something a DJ who appeared on Come Dine with Me and flies a helicopter may do...
(07 Nov 2014, 7:43 am)Dan Had over 8 hours sleep and I'm still unable to get out of bed. Bus is due in half an hour, ugh...
(07 Nov 2014, 7:43 am)Dan Had over 8 hours sleep and I'm still unable to get out of bed. Bus is due in half an hour, ugh...
(07 Nov 2014, 7:43 am)Dan Had over 8 hours sleep and I'm still unable to get out of bed. Bus is due in half an hour, ugh...
(07 Nov 2014, 7:43 am)Dan Had over 8 hours sleep and I'm still unable to get out of bed. Bus is due in half an hour, ugh...
(07 Nov 2014, 7:47 am)AdamY Could be S.A.D. (Seasonal Affected Disorder).
http://www.sada.org.uk/
http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/Seasonal-af...ction.aspx
(07 Nov 2014, 7:47 am)AdamY Could be S.A.D. (Seasonal Affected Disorder).
http://www.sada.org.uk/
http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/Seasonal-af...ction.aspx
(07 Nov 2014, 7:47 am)AdamY Could be S.A.D. (Seasonal Affected Disorder).We actually discussed that last winter in school during a lesson.
http://www.sada.org.uk/
http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/Seasonal-af...ction.aspx
(07 Nov 2014, 7:47 am)AdamY Could be S.A.D. (Seasonal Affected Disorder).We actually discussed that last winter in school during a lesson.
http://www.sada.org.uk/
http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/Seasonal-af...ction.aspx
(07 Nov 2014, 8:03 am)Dan We actually discussed that last winter in school during a lesson.
I suggested that I'm always moodier in winter, and everyone thought I sounded like a right pillock (at which point it was rather embarrassing as I thought it would have been a fairly common thing) until the teacher gave us details about SAD.
That said, I'd have the deadliest of diseases if I always believed what I read on Google!
(07 Nov 2014, 8:03 am)Dan We actually discussed that last winter in school during a lesson.
I suggested that I'm always moodier in winter, and everyone thought I sounded like a right pillock (at which point it was rather embarrassing as I thought it would have been a fairly common thing) until the teacher gave us details about SAD.
That said, I'd have the deadliest of diseases if I always believed what I read on Google!
Weather. Looks like no Stockton trip today!I'm thinking of abandoning it too it's horrendous.
Weather. Looks like no Stockton trip today!I'm thinking of abandoning it too it's horrendous.
(07 Nov 2014, 8:03 am)Dan We actually discussed that last winter in school during a lesson.I suffer this all year round...
I suggested that I'm always moodier in winter, and everyone thought I sounded like a right pillock (at which point it was rather embarrassing as I thought it would have been a fairly common thing) until the teacher gave us details about SAD.
That said, I'd have the deadliest of diseases if I always believed what I read on Google!
(07 Nov 2014, 8:03 am)Dan We actually discussed that last winter in school during a lesson.I suffer this all year round...
I suggested that I'm always moodier in winter, and everyone thought I sounded like a right pillock (at which point it was rather embarrassing as I thought it would have been a fairly common thing) until the teacher gave us details about SAD.
That said, I'd have the deadliest of diseases if I always believed what I read on Google!