(02 Nov 2014, 8:48 pm)Adam wrote Sound advice that. Thank you.
My head says one thing, my heart another.
I'm really not sure if the friend feels the same way or not.
It is very hard to keep everyone happy. I don't want to make my friendship with them awkward, and I don't want their friendship to be awkward either.
And it does seem a bit pointless if we've only got a month and a bit left.
Doing A-Level Ethics has made this a hell of a lot harder. I've got all the different theories running through my mind; Utilitarianism, Kantian Ethics, Virtue Ethics.
I live with a lot of regret in my life. Some of that regret stems from the fact that, like you, I tend to over analyse situations. For me, it gets to the point where I somehow manage to convince myself that something I think is a good idea will lead to something bad (or that the effort is not worth it). When analysing these situations further, you sometimes end up regretting not acting upon initial impulse.
To relate this to your situation, around 15 years ago, there was this girl who I mad about. We were friends but I also had reason to believe that she also liked me. My analysis, combined with a lack of self-confidence, convinced me not to pursue things further and our friendship remained platonic. I don't know how the relationship would have panned-out if we had gotten together - it may have been a complete disaster - or even if she'd considered going with me but, one thing I do know, is that I still think of her regularly and wonder 'what if'.
A month and a half may not seem like a lot of time for a relationship to develop but it could also prove to be one of the better experiences of your life.
The only question you have to ask yourself is can you live with not knowing how it all could have panned-out?
