(16 Dec 2016, 5:00 pm)Jamie M wrote My main question then is - why do you care? I mean it's a bit of a sharp question, and it's a bit hypocritical of myself because I get very uptight about this kinda thing, even with people I hardly know. I only get anxious when I forget to ask myself why I even care about what other people think of myself.
If you can't think about anything you've obviously done wrong, then it's not really obnoxious and they have nothing to really complain about...
...but we all like complaining about random crap, whether it's a person or emotions - it's why this thread has taken off in the first place. What I've found is that others sometimes (or most of the time) complain about everything and everyone.
I think the issue with people like us with this mindset is that we find it very hard to just dismiss random judgements, even if we truely don't care about the person giving them. I'm not very vocal about it, but I can relate to this, as I can to most things you post on this thread. Arrogance is the extreme of this, but I believe negative judgements and words only do anything if you don't dismiss them, but rather, endorse them. It's a challenge and a half, but if you can grow to think about judgements before you let yourself become emotionally entangled, it helps a lot to reduce the panics with these situations - which may undoubtedly be daily encounters, for some.
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It's with people I know that have been getting annoyed with me today, because I was getting annoyed with things and moaned about what's irritated me.
There has been other factors that have led to me going on a bit of a downward spiral this week, but I ain't going to go into any of that on here.
I get what you mean, but can't convey the right words to respond to it.