(30 Jan 2015, 7:42 pm)Tommy_1581 wrote Then did a car with blue and yellow checkers turn up outside your house?
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(30 Jan 2015, 9:52 pm)MarcTheA4 wrote @Dan - I've just been looking at the start of this thread - and you mention your private education...
I'd just like to let you know how lucky you are. lol
I'm being serious, sometimes mainstream school is HELL. I'd rather be stuck with a bunch of stuck-up posh twats in Year 9, than a bunch of smoking cunts...I'd do anything. ANYTHING.
Just throwing it out there...
Yesterday in Music, which I have Period 5, I had been virtually by myself in Art (Period 4) because the rest of my mates are the Skiing Trip to France (my best friend isn't in my tutor, and Art is with your tutor sadly) - but I had no other people in my sad pathetic tutor who I could get along with. The rest are all loud angry bitches and absolute freaks...
Since I'd been stuck alone in Art with nobody to talk to, I was in a mood so went into Music with the wrong mindset. I threw my bag and coat onto the chair next to me, forgetting its occupied by a total slut who sleeps under a bridge...well, the 4 biggest bitches walking (one is a boy - the queerest I've ever met), and when she noticed I was in her chair - she quietly asked me to remove my stuff. She was so quiet, I didn't hear.
Next thing - I was told to kill myself...you wouldn't get that in a private school, would you?
(30 Jan 2015, 10:04 pm)Andreos1 wrote I know people who have been through private education and to be honest, you would never know they had in some cases.
A person can be a 'tw*t', whether they have gone through mainstream or private education.
Both wipe their arses in the same way, doesn't make them anyone any better or any worse.
(30 Jan 2015, 11:01 pm)Dan wrote Can't even remember bringing it up before...
There are advantages and disadvantages of private school education, Marcus. The main disadvantage depends on your social status, and for me, it was the pressure of coming from a different background, and trying to fit in.
Like most primary state school students, I thought I would also be venturing off to a secondary state school for further education after Year 6. My teacher in Year 6 had other plans for me, based on the dedication and level of enthusiasm I showed for education throughout primary school. I was always a bit of a geek in primary school, and many considered me to be "teacher's pet." The teacher had always wanted to give her two children the benefit of private education, but her children had learning difficulties and she feared they would fail an entrance test, so she didn't want to put them through that. With hindsight, I do think she had a maternal attitude with me during primary school, and this is seemingly why she pushed so much to get me into private education. I passed the entrance exam with flying colours, was eligible for a scholarship, and also a bursary. Without the help from my Year 6 teacher, I don't think I could have done that.
I'll try and keep this as brief as possible as I wouldn't wish to turn this into a sob story - Year 7 was quite difficult for me. I didn't immediately make friends; as most of my classmates came directly from the Junior School, I found it hard to get involved in friendship circles which were already formed. Those who did not come from the Junior School were already friends with some of those who were in the Junior School or came with friends from their own primary school, so integrated with greater ease. I, like many of my peers at primary school, came from an average background. I am by no means particularly wealthy, and I was judged because of this in Year 7. As Fozz has already said, some students at private schools can be cruel. After weeks of feeling segregated from the group, I did eventually make a small friend group, and I found that we didn't judge each other.
My year group was still rather divided into Year 8: there was multiple small friend groups, and the friend groups only talked to one another if they had to.
It wasn't until Year 9 that my year group was forced to integrate. At my school, the form groups stay the same in Year 7 and 8, and you have all of your classes with these students. In Year 9, the form groups are changed slightly. The Head of Year 9 works with the Head of Year 7 and 8 to discuss existing friendship groups, and they discuss which friendship groups could be matched up to provide a more-or-less even number of students in each of the two forms. This is when my small friend group expanded; indeed, my entire class formed one big friend group. It was clear that there was quite a big divide between the two form groups, though. I was in the well-behaved form - the one that had students who typically received better grades in exams.
I started to enjoy school a lot more from Year 9. As you will know, Marcus, it's quite a big year, as you have to decide the subjects which you're going to take at GCSE. The choice of subjects at my school is quite limited (compared to a state school) and you have to choose approximately ten subjects, but there are some compulsory 'choices.' I knew from the start of the year what I was good at (and conversely what I wasn't good at), so I knew exactly what I was going to take at GCSE. Subjects such as Art ended up becoming a lesson where I had more fun, as I'd mess around, knowing that I had absolutely no intentions of taking it at GCSE. I was invited to parties, and school life did get a lot better.
We retained the same form groups in Years 10/11, but more often than not, we were forced to integrate with the other form, if they had chosen the same subjects as us for GCSE. It was from Year 10 onwards that we integrated more as a year group. We'd all matured, and I certainly felt that I was judged a lot less. By the end of Year 11, we were all one close family. Like most families, we argued a fair bit, but we made up in the majority of cases. I was certainly quite saddened to wave goodbye to some of them at the end of Year 11 - but I was also glad to see the back of some of them too.
I really love our little year group in Sixth Form (Year 12). We integrate with Upper Sixth quite a bit, and we're all really good friends. If anyone has a house party, we all tend to be invited. My life in school is completely different now to what it was in Year 7. Some students are still a little arrogant and narrow-minded towards those who aren't of the same "social status" as them, but I've learned to ignore it, with most of the comments being made in jest anyway. If I didn't ignore the comments, I would perhaps take offence. Not just because some of the comments could be offensive to me - but also the friends I have in state schools. Until this year, there was still members of my year group who hadn't ever used a bus before, as they're used to daddy pulling up in the Lambo to pick them up from school and suchlike. With age, the more arrogant members of my year group have piped down a bit and got off their high horses.
As Fozz has already said, the standard of education you receive is very good. Even from GCSE, you can find you have class sizes of just one student! I take four A-Levels and all of my class sizes are very small (English Lang/Lit - 2, Media - 2, Business - 5, ICT - 5). The resources in a private school aren't amazing, and this is what lets us down. I believe that state schools can (and do) receive money from Government to assist with improving resources and buying new facilities to improve the education offered to students. This doesn't apply to private schools, though. You pay for the teaching which can be done on a one-to-one basis, and this is the huge upside of private education. I have a weekly 'tutorial' period in Media Studies in which I discuss the progress I've made in the course - the feedback I receive from the teacher completely differs from the other student in my class because we do different levels of work. Sadly, this also has its downsides. Teachers do put a lot of pressure on you to do well, and constantly remind you about University. One girl in my year group recently received three Us and a C in her mock exams - she had to take some time off last week because she ended up getting herself so down about it. Not only did she feel she'd let herself and her family down, but also her teachers. She didn't want to face the teachers.
It's quite ironic that you've brought this up tonight, Marcus. Prospective Year 7 students for the new academic year in September undertook their entrance exams at my school today. During my free period today, I was asked (with three others in my year group) to gather the students and talk to them. We were told to talk to the students about how we felt six years ago, when we were in the same position. It actually brought these memories back, and reminded me of how I didn't really enjoy my time at school until a few years in. Of course, I didn't say any of this to the students...
Despite all of the downsides, though, I probably would recommend private education to anyone who can afford to go for it. With a scholarship and bursary, there's certainly no reason why even those of an average working class / middle class background cannot afford to go to a private school.
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(31 Jan 2015, 9:01 am)MrFozz wrote Is it Sunderland High you go to Dan???
I failed the Entrance Test there when I was 12 to go into Year 9 which is why I ended up back in the state I lost the little group I was with at 8/9 years old, so had to start again at 13 and that period of my life is directly responsible for the problems I now have, my nans snobbery and expectation of me, I went to Durham Choristers, completely for the wrong reasons.
For me, people took the piss out of my accent, a posh person mocking the mackem accent sounds funny and me telling people to fuck off in a put on posh voice sounded just as funny.
In time, I became liked at Durham, was always in trouble for something, but the teachers liked me, I was not evil, had a couple of fights and messed about a lot, but the effect on me was huge, from acing the entrance test to my ultimate failure with Sunderland High. In my family it is now accepted I should probably have stayed mainstream and I dont know if my mam would admit it publically, but if we could go round again, she may have stood up to her mam and said no.
I hate the fact I was given the chance, me and my nan never saw eye to eye, we actually sorted out our differences 2 days before she died.
Private Education can be beneficial, and it sounds like every penny put into you Dan has paid off, proud of you pal, not many kids get the chance you have and it seems like you had good support around you as a primary student...
1 question Dan, out of your primary school friends, did you drift away from them or did you keep relationships up, when I moved back to mainstream from private, I had no friends, the kids I knocked about with at Primary had there own group of senior school friends, and for all of year 9, I did not have a friend in the world, in year 10 I was moved tutor groups and from then until I left school I only had about 4 friends, all girls ...
I am probably starting to drift off a bit now, but Private Education did me some good, it made me eager to help people, through being teased and bullied, It helped me when I was in Care to become the person I am now, it gave me the skill to listen to people, my experience taught me not to prejudge someone because of there social background and it helped me to bring out my caring/sympathetic side, which some people here will probably agree with
I agree with Dan, Private Education can be a benefit, and if a Young Person shows dedication/enthusiasm then by all means.
I may moan sometimes about it, but if I given the chance to go round again, I would probably do most of it all exactly the same
(31 Jan 2015, 1:02 pm)northern156 wrote Without hijacking this discussion... what got me a tad angry earlier was in Sunderland City Centre on the E1 for South Shields after half of Sunderland get on at two stops placed about 50m from each other (!) a GNE B9TL passes carrying fresh air.. now I have the lovely smell of cheesy crisps as someone right behind me has just eaten them, ugh! Benefit to this is the lovely view from Seaburn!
(31 Jan 2015, 2:29 pm)aureolin wrote It's usually cheesy chips through that way! Bit of blue panda pop to go with it.
(31 Jan 2015, 4:09 pm)MarcTheA4 wrote I don't know if you'll have experienced scruffy chavs, coming from a private school (which, as you say, doesn't necessarily mean wealth)...but I have.
The full brunt of 3 bitches. If you disagree with them, you get told to kill yourself. If you stick up for somebody, you get even worse. They'll find something - they know everyone's ticking point. One of my friends' dad is an absolute moron - he is a 'wanker' as he described him - and he left his mother when she found out she was pregnant. He burst into tears when they used it against him...they are literally the scum of the earth.
And they don't just terrorise people, they do much more than that. We have 60 minutes in every lesson - I'd say 10-15 of that is spent;
A) Them interrupting the teacher to slag people off.
B) Them running around the classroom and damaging stuff.
C) Them insulting people.
D) Outside.
(31 Jan 2015, 4:33 pm)MrFozz wrote To pick a few things out Marcus
Cause he has experienced scruffy chavs, he is from Sunderland after all ...As for his school I cant imagine many scruffs there...Infact we all have
Similar kind of thing with me, we left my dad when I was 4, never had much to do with him and that issue still breaks my heart to this day
Your teachers need to start disciplining troublemakers, sounds like they have no control over your lessons
(31 Jan 2015, 5:55 pm)Racer_Experience wrote when i took a bus photo today some idiot stuck his middle finger up at me and then he took the mick out of the disabled people
(31 Jan 2015, 6:17 pm)Tommy_1581 wrote I get that all the time, it's sad that these people feel the need to take the piss out of everybody. Some teenagers were at Ashington bus station yesterday, they were staring at me because I was taking a photo of a Max OmniCity. Me, my mam and my brother find that travelling by bus is safer than walking because I have a few people who have problems against me. My mam is extremely vulnerable at the moment because she's bringing a little girl into the world in May. Some of these threats have made me consider whether or not to continue with the hobby.
Once I was putting timetables into the holders at Ashington bus station, the next day, I found timetables everywhere, the holders had been snapped as well. I know this was something against me, because I saw someone staring at me from a stand when I was putting the timetables in the holders. Sick mental people.
(31 Jan 2015, 6:37 pm)aureolin wrote Don't let a few brainless idiots put you off your hobby. I've had a few run ins over the years, but my biggest issue is when it feels like it's becoming a chore! I've been off work for a few days, and not even thought about going out for photos.
(31 Jan 2015, 6:17 pm)Tommy_1581 wrote I get that all the time, it's sad that these people feel the need to take the piss out of everybody. Some teenagers were at Ashington bus station yesterday, they were staring at me because I was taking a photo of a Max OmniCity. Me, my mam and my brother find that travelling by bus is safer than walking because I have a few people who have problems against me. My mam is extremely vulnerable at the moment because she's bringing a little girl into the world in May. Some of these threats have made me consider whether or not to continue with the hobby.
Once I was putting timetables into the holders at Ashington bus station, the next day, I found timetables everywhere, the holders had been snapped as well. I know this was something against me, because I saw someone staring at me from a stand when I was putting the timetables in the holders. Sick mental people.
(31 Jan 2015, 6:37 pm)aureolin wrote Don't let a few brainless idiots put you off your hobby. I've had a few run ins over the years, but my biggest issue is when it feels like it's becoming a chore! I've been off work for a few days, and not even thought about going out for photos.
(31 Jan 2015, 6:57 pm)MarcTheA4 wrote I've never had any bother at school about my hobby.
I've mentioned before that everyone who knows me knows about what I do in my spare time, and I've never been given the business about it. One or two sly comments from one or two people who needed to be put in their place, mainly just calling it sad and a waste of time and money - one used to have a cyst above his eye so I asked him if he was getting it sown back on, and he shut up.
I can get along with most people, because when I'm not on NEB (I know I seem like it's my life when I reply to something within a minute lol, blame push-notifications!) or Flickr (again, push-notifications) I'm with my friends on PS Network. GTA 5 and CoD...brilliant!
So, just don't make it your life. Juggle other things around with it; for example aside from PS4 and buses I've got Instagram (I found out recently it's the most useful form of social media for teens)...and I think the reason I manage to fit in so well is because I only ever really put memes up. And people find them as funny as I do. lol
I only bothered with it in mid-September and so far I've gotten 203 followers, most of whom are actually people I speak to on a regular basis, or people I just steal memes from.
It does annoy me though when somebody follows you, takes a bunch of memes, and then uploads them as their own. Especially the ones I make myself...I feel like saying something but I think I'll leave it...
So yeah, as I say - just balance your interests, have a variety of friends and acquaintances and you'll get no bother!
But having said that, I think it's harder when people already see you as a 'weirdo' or 'freak' - people started to realise my interest in buses back in January in Y7, people were still making friends and getting to know each other, etc, and I think the fact that I was in that position helped me a lot.
People always come to me if they have a question regarding timetable and stuff, and I suppose the added assistance I offer helps.
(31 Jan 2015, 6:57 pm)MarcTheA4 wrote So, just don't make it your life. Juggle other things around with it; for example aside from PS4 and buses I've got Instagram (I found out recently it's the most useful form of social media for teens)...and I think the reason I manage to fit in so well is because I only ever really put memes up. And people find them as funny as I do. lol
(31 Jan 2015, 7:35 pm)aureolin wrote I really shouldn't joke, but here was me thinking that Snapchat was...